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How are you managing your Life?
Are you achieving your goals and dreams or are you always putting them on hold? It’s very easy to say we want something but never do anything about getting it. Words are easy to come by. It’s in the area of taking action where most of us fall short.
Taking action on something we say we want often makes us push ourselves into areas where we haven’t been before. Going after what we want means taking risks. Often it may mean going against the wishes of someone that we care about. Even though generally those close to us really do want the best for us, sometimes even though it may be done unconsciously they may sabotage our efforts.
We need to understand that making big changes for ourselves could well affect the lives of others. Therefore, they may not support us in our desire to make that change. Change in us could be a threat to them. They think it will change their life too and sometimes it does. Sometimes our feelings of guilt will stop us in our tracks. If we are going to upset those we love it’s no wonder most of us hold back.
Depending on the extent of our intended action will depend on who or what will be affected. Are we talking of change as being to redesign or re-furnish the house, changing the car or planning on spending a chunk of savings on a big vacation? Or are we thinking of quitting our present job to take a job in another country? Are we thinking of taking on a huge loan in order to start up a new business, or are we thinking of leaving our relationship? Of course these last examples especially will affect others if you are in a relationship. They will affect your partner and possibly even family members.
Making change is also a time when we perceive that we will prove to ourselves and others whether we can actually be successful or if we will fail. If we don’t try then no-one can say we failed but if we do and it doesn’t work out others will know; then we will be a failure right? Wrong!
You will never know until you try. I always look at it as; it’s a lesson not failure, it’s a lesson in finding out what doesn’t work. Once you know then you won’t do that again. Then it’s time to try another way. Every successful person has had to learn what doesn’t work before getting to the place where they find out what does. It’s research! This applies whether you are baking your first cake, learning to ski or going for something much bigger.
Having the support of someone that understands our need for change is very helpful. We all need to talk out our ideas with someone that can be encouraging, yet unbiased. A life coach is someone that does this and a lot more. They don’t have a vested interest in your plan other than to see you succeed. A coach is going to help guide you. They are not someone that will judge you or have their own interests overshadow your. A coach can help you become highly effective in moving toward the life you want.
A good coach will be impartial, non judgmental and will be able to read between the lines of what you are saying. Sometimes we hold back from saying what’s really on our minds for fear of being judged. Sometimes we are not even sure how to express what we want or need. A coach will help you prioritize and decide what’s really important to you. They will also support, encourage and help you figure the required action steps needed to take you toward your goal.
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